Tuesday, June 28, 2011

LiFe iS aBoUt To ChAnGe!

Well, like I said, life is about to change!!

We have decided to jump on the baby train. As much as we've changed our minds about this, we have decided this is what we want to do. I can't help but feel the emptiness since our miscarriage, I want so badly to be pregnant and have a baby. And he/she better stay in there this time...OR ELSE! So I had a follow up appointment yesterday morning to go over our options to help me get pregnant. As I may have said before, I do not have regular periods, which means it's hard to pinpoint ovulation days, meaning I'm relying on luck when it comes to getting pregnant! And I don't really like my odds. So my doctor wanted to get me started on medication (Provera) that jump starts a period, and after that I take a prescription(Clomid) which causes ovulation. Since my body sucks and can't do the work its self!! So basically, next to my bed I have a thermometer, a temp. chart, 3 medications and my prenatal vitamins. Sounds pretty hot, right?! Um, yeah, I don't think Jimmy thinks so! Sorry honey!

So I wanted to get pregnant before the summer is over to ensure that I won't be a fat balloon next summer--no bueno! But putting that kind of stress on myself and my already tricky situation was just setting me up for disappointment. So we're just gonna go with the flow. Well, hopefully.

So now I am back into my nursery (which is already like 80% finished! lol) and going through all the things I have bought--don't ask, I'm almost embarrassed lol you'd think I have 2 buns in the oven, one B and one G. I want to be prepared, and at cheap prices, I just can't help myself.

I don't want to get my hopes up to high, but I'm hoping this works the first time around! And I'm so excited! And nervous! And really really anxious! But I will have my best friend going through the same process at the same time (or really close). She's probably going to have it a little easier than me, because she doesn't have the same problems that I am having. But it will be fun to share this experience! How many of you can say you shared this wonderful experience with someone you're close with?!

I start my first dose on Friday, July 1st....so by the end of July I will know if it worked or not. And if not, we will try it again. My doctor wants to see me every 6 weeks until my eggo is officially preggo! So wish us luck, and for my friend! And I'll be updating more as soon as I get started on this new journey!!

That's all for now, hope everyone has a safe and fun 4th of July! My 23rd birthday is coming up on the 11th, it's the first time probably ever that I've kind of forgotten my own birthday. Lol does that come with getting older and having a more relaxed lifestyle??

 Any advice would be helpful from anyone who has been in this kind of situation! What worked for you? How many months before you got that PREGNANT in the result window of your test? And we're you in that 10% of women who have twins?? I know one woman who was! That's a frightening thought, but at the same time, it's a risk I have (and am kiiiinda willing) to take!!

Goodnight!

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

An update on this and that...

Well, I finally returned to work last month!

And after working 2 weeks, the pain started all over again! UGH. So I was pulled out of work again until I could be seen by a doctor, so I made 2 appointments, one with my doctor here and another with a specialist in Fresno. I was able to see both doctors yesterday and SURPRISE SURPRISE, they don't really know why I'm having these troubles! SO frustrating, if they don't know and they don't know, how am I supposed to feel about that??! So basically the specialist said there's nothing he can do to relieve the pain or any troubles I'm having, he said to go to the gym (heard that before!! was really hoping that there would be a different solution than that!) and strengthen my muscles and that should help. He also told me that my body is hyper flexible (sounds hot,right?! LOL) and sometimes it's beneficial to people and sometimes (in my case) it's not. SO because I am "double jointed" and "flexible" my joints are too loose and that's a problem I might have to deal with for the rest of my life.

 Seeing any kind of positive or useful information yet? Yeah,no there wasn't.

I'm still stumped and still in pain and still on the verge of losing my job because I cannot work and my leave at Save Mart only allows me to be out for a year without losing my job....I was already out for 8 months!

So after my doctor's appointment in Fresno, we came home to see my doctor here who has been seeing me since last August and performed my surgery and basically told me before I had him excuse me to return to work that he wasn't too sure it's a good idea but if it becomes to much to come back and he will pull me back out. So here I am again, now he's scratching his head, my MRI (pre-surgery) looked good, x-rays looked good, back MRI was clean.....why the pain??! Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that my legs will tingle and fall asleep while laying down or sitting in a chair, so we thought maybe I had a pinched nerve in my back causing that,...um no. And I also have had that symptoms of restless leg syndrome.

Still haven't seen that silver lining, huh?

Anyways, back to my doctor's opinion, so he's not sure why I'm having these problems and pain. So he wants to refer me to another doctor for a second opinion, as a matter of fact he's sending me to 2 new doctors. One who is a sports medicine doctor and the other specializes in arthritis and osteoporosis. Needless to say my in-laws knew those doctors but they couldn't believe I would be seeing a doctor with that specialty. Yeah, I'm not sure either but maybe he'll have the answers I've been looking for.Because I know there has to be better answers out there than "go to the gym!" And I am going to be getting a post-op MRI of my knee to see what it looks like in there and see if there's something floating around causing the trouble and causing my knee cap to catch and lock up. Yeah, sounds wonderful doesn't it? Not so much. ):

So now I am out of work until July and my insurance was cancelled as of today so I have to wait for COBRA to pick me back up, spending $400 a month for insurance is not the business. I liked it when it was free! Seeing all these doctors, another MRI (not my favorite thing!), and just stressing and worrying about what is going to happen. I'm only 22, why am I going through this?!

But ultimately, there is a silver lining.

I am married to the most wonderful man, have 4 of the craziest and most annoying dogs ever- but i love them!!, have the greatest friends and family, starting my own business and already have fans!!, have a beautiful home, and I may be a hot mess-- but I'm still alive! And I am so thankful.

So for now we have obviously but a new baby on the back burner because my body could not handle the extra weight, It's a smart decision, but most days I don't find it fair! But for now, it's okay.

Oh, and about my business! Let me tell you a little bit about my new project. I will be redesigning baby and children's clothes! I do not make everything from scratch but I make it new and one of a kind! And will be making accessories such as headbands and beanies and items such as wipes case covers and sippy cup holders. Lots of different stuff. I plan to get started within the next 2 weeks, still waiting for some supplies to come in. I converted our front living room (which we never use) into my own craft room, it has everything I could need in here, and lots of space. And thanks to my hubby for taking me shopping the past few days to buy supplies! He thinks that makes him co-owner! hahaha! So this is where you find me now. It's my escape. It's "my" place. I love it and I cannot wait to get started with my designs!

Well, that's about enough from me. Until next time.......


On the cruise ship for our honeymoon before we headed to ENSENADA!!

Friday, April 22, 2011

Well Hey There!!

I am so sorry to keep you waiting!! As you all know I was planning a wedding, doing knee therapy, fixing up out house and lots of little things in between....so cut me some slack on not keeping up on the posts!! LOL Okay so where do I begin??

Our house: We got hooked up from the bridal shower and have been decorating the living room, kitchen and master bedroom!! New bedding for our bed and added some candles and picture frames:) that's as far as we've gotten but looks good so far!! We finished painting the 3rd bedroom (the future nursery), the green looks so good! Hung brown curtains in the dining room and living room, it's amazing the difference hanging curtains makes! I will have to upload pictures next time to show you our projects! We are definately making this house our HOME. We are so happy here!

My knee: As you know I have a bum knee LOL I have been having lots of problems since my surgery, my knee was not healing as it was supposed to and I have not returned to work. Jimmy and I joined the gym in Feb. and I (was) go to the gym regularly and my knee was feeling so much better (still a little stiff sometimes or it would pop every once in a while but not neeeearly as bad as before going to the gym!) so I was pumped and ready to get my life back and go back to work. Until I took like 2 weeks off because of all my last minute wedding things, the death of Jimmy's grandpa, my gym buddy went out of town and I just started getting downright tired! BIIIIIIIIG mistake. I am paying the consequences now, my knee pain has returned (not often though) and I have started wearing my brace again to keep my knee from popping and locking. I am still planning on returning to work next month but at this point I feel like I'm gonna suffer:( so we'll see.

Jimmy: my hubby turned 29 this month! And on the day of his birthday we got a phone call at 2am saying his grandfather was in the hospital. We rushed to Tulare to be with him, we were there for almost 12 hours, and he was in the hospital for 3 days before we lost him. He taught Jimmy everything he knows, he was like a dad to Jimmy. His grandpa had alzheimer's and against all doctor's saying he doesn't know you or remember things, he knew Jimmy. He lit up when Jimmy was around. It was precious. It was a miracle.

Last weeks Update: Now keep in mind, it's "wedding week", Jimmy's birthday was this week, we're still finishing up last minute details for the wedding, now we're planning a funeral.....and I find out I'm pregnant. So this all hit us at once! We are quite the team, I don't know if anyone else wouldve been able to get through this and still be sane! I was able to get an appt for Tuesday after the wedding to see a new OBGYN. I was ecstatic! Finally! A baby :) Awkward timing, but for us the saying "with death comes life" was definately true! We were able to tell Grandpa before he passed that we were getting married on Saturday and that we were having a baby! He looked at me and gave me a nod. I think that means he's happy. That made me happy. On Thursday I noticed a little spotting, thought maybe it was implantation bleeding, I wasn't worried. Friday it got a little worse and I was actually bleeding (not heavily), so I called the doc and she didn't seem too worried, told me if the bleeding gets worse or the cramps get worse to call back. Saturday morning (the day of my wedding) the bleeding was pretty bad, I called the doc again and she still didn't seem too alarmed, her words "lots of women bleed in their pregnancy and some women have a period while pregnant...maybe that's what you're experiencing. but keep an eye out and call back if it gets worse." Well, I was already having a bad day with things going on with my wedding and I was stressed about that as well as worrying about my baby, so my best friend took me to a walk in clinic to get checked out for peace of mind and so I can just know what is going on. Meanwhile, it's 1 o'clock and my wedding starts in 3 hours and my girl's are at the venue setting up, vendors are showing up, im a WRECK...and all I want to do is call the whole thing off and go home! So we get my urine test results back saying i'm not pregnant. 5 days ago three home pregnancies said I was! So they want to send me somewhere else to get another test, I don't have time for this, so I just put this problem on the back burner, I've got to go get married and I'll deal with the rest tomorrow. So I had a beautiful wedding, it was better than I could've imagined, my love for Jimmy has really grown and been challenged this week, we have really grown stronger through all of this. It was a wonderful (rest of the) day. The next day we woke up and I was so at peace, feeling so much better, now I have a loving husband, awesome family, and the bestest friend anyone could ask for. I could not have gotten through that day without them. I wish all people were as considerate and caring as them. Let's just say my wedding morning could've gone a little smoother if that were the case!! :\ So Tuesday comes and my doctor's appt is at 10, i've been upset for 2 days now because I know that this appt is not going to go the way I thought it would when I called after getting that "PREGNANT". I was not feeling pregnant anymore, the symptoms were gone, my boobs weren't huge and sore, I still had the bloating though (go figure!). So I had a songogram done, tech said nothing is there. I cried so hard as if this were the first time I was finding out something was wrong. My doctor comes in shortly after and after talking for a while he tells me that after 3-4 months we can try again. There's hope, I obviously can get pregnant, so after my body heals and he orders me some blood work to check my levels and thyroid, he wants me to come back in and we're going to "get me pregnant"! It's still upsetting because I want to be pregnant now, I want my little boy (I was determined that this kid would be a boy and I would name him Mason and he would be handsome just like his daddy!) but the upside was that no baby ever grew inside of me, I never knew how far along I was, so it's not like I lost my baby, which is a little easier to deal with. My levels all came back good and my hormone level came back at 2 (not pregnant is 0...so I was probably already miscarrying when I took my test because my level dropped waaaay too quick). So my doctor says we don't have to wait 4 months now, we only have to wait 2 months! AHHH!! So needless to say, it's still a little sad, but I am so happy thinking about the idea that we are going to be planning for this baby, wanting this baby about 100x more now, my body will be ready to carry a baby, and now I won't be so picky- i'll take a boy or a girl! As long as it's healthy. Let the shopping begin!! hehehe.

So, it's about 3am and i'm supposed to be up in 4 hours to leave for MEXICO!!! But I just wanted to give an update to my followers, i'm not looking for any sympathy with my story, I am just letting it all out, letting it go, moving forward and looking forward to creating a beautiful new additional to my new little family. I know there are probably women out there who have gone through this, how did you deal? how long did you wait to try again? Were you successful the second time? Third time? I'm just looking for some insight. I hope everyone has a wonderful easter and remembers the reason for this holiday. When we get back from Mexico I will post again, with lots of pictures. I'll give you one sneak peek of me and my handsome hubby to hold you over til then! I thank you all for listening or your input. And like I said, I didn't write this for any sympathy or to tell everyone private matters of my life for them to be spread around like gossip. I hope people can relate and maybe find assurance in my story that God has a plan for everyone and when you feel like you'll never get what you want, you will. You just have to work for it. And also, if anyone has advice or success stories, i'd love to hear it!!


<3 The new Mr. and Mrs. Cotter <3

Adios!!! See you next week!! love you all (:

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Ok, I'm back....

......With something that will really catch my interest, my soon to be husband, James Joseph Cotter ;)

Here's a little survey I found online that tests just how much you know about the man you're marrying!

Here I go...

Here's a chance to see how well you really know your (future) Husband. Cut, paste and fill in the answers, then forward . . . you know what to do. The real challenge is to send it to your (future) Husband to see how right you really are.

1. He's sitting in front of the TV, what is on the screen? Law and Order:SVU, Deadliest Catch, Axe Men, Ice Road Truckers, Storage Wars..... he has lots of favorites!!

2. You're out to eat; what kind of dressing does he get on his salad? ranch

3. What's one food he doesn't like? tomatoes........and cheesecake (what a freak!)

4. You go out to eat and have a drink.... depends on where we go, but we go to Applebee's a lot and he orders the steak and likes the apple martini's lol or dr.pepper

5. What size shoe does he wear? 10 or 10 1/2....he wouldn't even be able to answer that question, sad when you're spouse knows your shoe size and you don't

6. If he was to collect anything, what would it be? he does collect something.... JOHN DEERE tractors....and lots of other stuff..he's a little bit of a packrat!!
 
7. What is his favorite type of sandwich?he likes turkey and swiss cheese....i don't know if that's his favorite though!

8. What would this person eat every day if he could? probably french fries lol

9. What is his favorite cereal? i think fruit loops or cinnamon toast crunch

10. What would he never wear? he swears he would never wear jean shorts, he thinks it's weird...give it some time, I'm sure he'll wear them when he's older because he won't care anymore!!

11. What is his favorite sports team? we're not big sports watchers but he like the s.f. giants
 
12. Who did he vote for? don't know if he did, we weren't together back then.
 
13. Who is his best friend? I don't know which one of his friends he would consider to be a "best friend" but he has quite a few friends he talks to, but we don't see friends much these days.

14. What is something you do that he wishes you wouldn't do? Um, I'm sure he wishes I was a more pleasant person LOL I can be a bit of a grouch sometimes and I'm sure he would like me to not nag!

15. What is his heritage? I know his dad is irish....lol and that's all I know!

16. you bake him a cake for his birthday what kind of cake is it?? we didn't celebrate his birthday last year (we had juuuuust started dating) and his next birthday is a week before our wedding so he'll be lucky if I find the time to make him a cake.... but i'd probably bake a white cake, who doesn't like a white cake? lol
 
17. Did he play sports in high school? not that I know of, I know he played soccer when he was younger...but i'm sure he just partied in h.s. ( I find this hard to believe, but those are the only high school stories I hear from him LOL)

18. What could he spend hours doing? yard work, watching tv, detailing his truck, playing with the dogs
 
19. What is one unique talent he has? he makes me very happy:) that may not be unique to others, but it works for me!
 
Off to bed now, just thought i'd post a little fun quiz just to pass some time!! Goodnight all

so much to do and no urge to do it...

These last few days I have felt so overwhelmed with all the things I need to do, some pretty important things, and I just have had no urge to get anything done!! I know I'm not alone here, procrastination happens to the best of us, but I am just wondering what I can do to light a fire under my own behind!? lol It's 2 o'clock and I am still in PJ's, just goofing around on the internet, printing address labels and ordering more wedding pictures for a scrapbook, one set for me and one for my grandma, and I already have a zillion pictures to start with but instead I'm just sitting here wasting time doing things that I don't need to be worried about. I should be dressed, picking up the house, mailing out my save-the-dates (which at this rate will be sent out at the same time as my wedding invitations!!), getting ready for dinner with my in-laws, and doing some laundry....but no. I don't want to do any of that! I want to relax and just do the things that are of no importance right now. Why is that? It's so frustrating! My grandma is here for the weekend and we have been addressing my save-the-dates and working on my guest list for the wedding (which I'm already over my limit!! ugh.) And every time we start working on it I instantly get frustrated because we've invited so many people and there are still some people that I would've liked to invite but I can't do anything about it and I don't want anyone's feelings to get hurt. But I guess it's going to happen no matter what, no sense in getting stressed over something that I just can't do anything about.

My invitations came in and they are going to look soooo awesome!! I'm going to plan a day with my girls to help me put them together and get them addressed. It'll probably be quite a bit of work but I think with a couple sets of hands it will be much easier (especially on me!). I have had this "oh i'll do it myself" attitude and I have brought a lot of stress on myself that could've been avoided if I just asked for help. But I have this problem with asking for help, I don't like to do it, I like to do things on my own to ensure that it will get done and be done the way I like it to be done. Which makes me sound like a brat now that I just said it out loud. But that's just how I feel. I want what I want, I want my wedding to be perfect. I only get this one chance to have a beautiful wedding. And that's how I want people to remember that day, perfect and full of love. Then I will have gone through all this stress for a reason!! lol

So basically I can't even stay focused on this blog right now, everything that I wanted to talk about is gone from my mind...so I'm going to make myself get up and get ready before Jimmy gets home and realizes I haven't done anything since he left!! lol

I'll be back soon. Hopefully with more to talk about. Sorry guys.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Simple Livin'

So my best friend told me I need to update my blog, so I figured I'd update on what has been going on with us! I must say, I really hoped I'd have people that would read my blog and be interested in what I have to say, but for some reason I didn't think I would have many things to talk about, I didn't think I would be interesting enough or something, and I think I've done pretty well so far. I didn't realize how much I like blogging and reading other people's blogs! It's the coolest new thing. Now if only I could get more organized and stay on one subject at a time! Lol so far I have gone from renovating and decorating our house, nesting, dogs, vacation, my fiance, my family, babies, our wedding, friends, work, surgeries, and aches and pains....did I leave anything out?? Lol I think I have talked about everything under the sun! I must apologize for that. But I'm glad you have stayed with me to see where I'm going with all my rants and raves!
So now for an update....
  • I went to the hospital yesterday to get blood work done to see how my thyroid medication is working for me. Hopefully I'm on the right track!!
  • I ordered my save the dates and my MOH stuffed them in envelopes, so they need addresses and stamps and they're headed out! WOO HOO!
  • Have had a stiff neck since last Thursday....no bueno!
  • Having a MRI on my back on Thursday to check for pinched nerves in my back because my legs have oddly been going numb...pretty scary.
  • 3 of my girls picked up their bridesmaid's dresses, I must say, they look great!
  • Met with my uncle today who will be marrying me and Jimmy, he made me feel so much better about the timeline of the wedding day...needless to say I have been kind of clueless on the rules!
  • Sent off the paperwork for my passport today, should be in within 4 weeks so we can go on our honeymoon cruise to MEXICO!
  • Our friend's had their little girl last week! Remember I told you we had two friend's having babies this month? one boy, one girl? Yeah, they're both here!! Lots more baby time for us I hope! hehe.
  • I set up my sewing machine in the front living room to start playing and practicing last week, first project: a shopping cart seat cover for babies! I've only got the patterns cut out and the fabric...haven't sewed anything yet!
I went in to Estes Institute of Cosmetology today, I have really been considering going back to school and since I was 12 I have wanted to be a hairdresser and I honestly feel that someone or something has been telling me to follow my gut and do it. It's the strangest thing, but I have to admit that I am quite happy about it. I have wanted to pursue this dream for so long but have been afraid I won't make it big and will have wasted my time (and money!) but it is becoming clear to me that this is what I should be doing. I should be pursuing my dream and should not be afraid anymore. So I'm going for it.... I'm going to work towards my dream. For me. And it feels good!!

Well, that's all the updates I can think of! We haven't been up to too much around here. Just been living the simple life. Just the way we like it!!

Oh, I told Jimmy that I'd tell the world just how wonderful he is, and he truly is. It's still uncomfortable for me to drive because of my knee ( and now I have a stiff neck!!) so if Jimmy has time, he takes me around to run my errands...bank, doctor appointments, shopping, etc.... I can't begin to say how much I appreciate and love that sweet man of mine!! My grandma always tells me to appreciate the little things, and let me tell you, I certainly do! Ok that's enough about him, I don't want him to read this and get all full of himself!! Lol. Only kidding.

Have a good night everyone and I'll be sure to post after my MRI, maybe I'll be able to read these MRI's better than the ones for my knee!! I want to know what's going on Lol. Hope you're enjoying my page's new face lift! It took me a while to twerk and tweak it the way I want it!!

Off to take a shower and get into bed, going to get new tires on my car tomorrow!! Go ahead and guess how much 4 tires cost for my car?? I am in shock, needless to say it's the first time I've ever bought them!! Lol.

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Feelin' a little sappy right now..

....it might be from the vicodin or something!! lol But I've noticed a change in my fiance lately and I think it's coming from the fact that are wedding is in exactly 3 months, I think he's beginning to get excited and it seems like he expressing himself a little more(which i like!). We picked out our wedding invitations last week, he really likes them! Go, Kendra! lol. I think it's starting to feel more real to him, he's starting to be a little more involved in the planning and giving me his input and FINALLY working on his side of the guest list. Which is a huge stress for me right now!! I have a big family and we are at our maximum right now of number of guests to invite and there are so many people i still want to invite. Any other bride's having this problem? It's so frustrating! But other than that, everything is going so smoothly. I cannot wait to be Mr. and Mrs. Cotter! Kendra Cotter, has a cute little ring to it, don't it?! :) I'm ready to start a new life with Jimmy and our 3 dogs, it's funny how something as simple as a marriage license and a name change(in my case) can totally change a couple's life. It'll be like when we first started dating all over again. Except I have a baller ring now! HAHA.

Anyways, so like I said I have noticed a change in Jimmy, we have been spending a lot of time with his friends lately who have kids (and newborns!! (: ) and of course it's no secret that I really want a baby, but I'm noticing that he keeps talking about babies and that he's ready now too. Go figure! So one of our friend's said that if you hold a baby, you'll have one! I'm sure that's not entirely true but let's just say that baby Chase has been held A LOT!!! He's the sweetest boy and I just love to watch him sleep, he smiles a lot in his sleep which is so precious! I said I wanted a boy and was so set on having one, but I have now come to the realization that I would like a healthy baby, boy or girl. But I have decided that I'm just going to let it happen when it's meant to and not force it, so here's to playing the waiting game. God, please don't make me wait long! hehe.

So as I sit here on the couch in front of the fire tonight with my man and my little dog Sammy, I am realizing how blessed I am, I have such an amazing family, great friends, 2 jobs that are waiting for me to come back from disability LOL, and an upcoming wedding. Life is so great! Hope i didn't make anyone throw up, but I just wanted to take a minute to take a second to appreciate life and tell my hubby-to-be how much i love him! Now if only my knee would stop giving me so much trouble, I mean I had my surgery almost 2 months ago and it seems like I was doing pretty good and all of a sudden I am back to square one again. So I have an appointment this week to get rechecked because I think I might have messed something up somehow. So wish me luck. I also get my thyroid rechecked this week too, so hopefully this medication is regulating my level so I can become a "normal" human being! Yahoo LOL.

That is all, think I'm going to snuggle up and get ready for bed, the pain pill is kickin in and making me sleepy so I'm going to take advantage of it!!

Also, tomorrow is my dad's 44th birthday, so if you know him, drop him a quick "happy birthday!" he's a great guy! and i love him:)
Goodnight